How many times we say “ouch! I should have done that”, “It really pissed me off. I wish I didn’t say that”, “I was so stressed”, “If I thought like that I wouldn’t make a mess” and so on… Well, it is just a moment. Yet disastrous enough…
We have found a few highly effective and simple tricks to stay calm in a such.
1.A Breathing Technique
“This one has really worked for me. First I take a longggg breath in, then out. I do it 4 times. I think of the worst things that can happen for a moment.” Example would be a failure or some loss. Then,
again I take a deeppp breath, do 4 times. I think of the good things that can happen. I think of how others compliment me. I think of how I become the hero that day. I try to feel that moment.” Another 4 breathing and I am done.
Whenever fear, doubt or anxiety knocks, this is a quick fix. Have a little faith and try this once. With practice this is going to be very normal.
This has done good to many. It is also acceptable in terms of brain science.
2.With a Pen and Paper
Well, this is a long term solution for any problem… Not a temporary fix.
“So first I would take a paper and a pen and sit in a peaceful corner at my house. I write all what disturbs my mind. I make sure that I am 100% honest with it. Also I try to cover everything.”
“Then I go to get myself some apple juice and get back. I focus on one issue at a time. I take one and then write what I can do about it.”
For example got 3 issues.
- No energy
Focus only on the first one.
When I am completed with finance, I move to the other two. Completing one by one is a good practice. When we focus all at one time, energy diverse. And at the end we get nothing.
One must keep in mind that not all problems we face are at our control. One faces both problems in control and out of control. When a problem is out of control, what do we gain by worrying over it?
One has both good times and bad. Bad days are sure to pass. Then comes the ones you have been waiting for. Till then, take care. We will meet again in part 2. (See Part 2) Comment what you have been dealing with and how these hacks worked for you.
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